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I know how alienating and lonely this time of year can be. I have spent many a Christmas and many a New Years over the past decade wondering about my life, my purpose, frustrated with myself, incredulous about my circumstances, unenthusiastic about the future and just plain sad. One of my only consolations when I was single was the unshakable idea that anything was possible. That anything could happen. The best stories always start with the innocuous, inauspicious, "one day." Look at 2019. Trump is impeached. #IMPOTUS Kanye West is an evangelist with Billy Graham-type appeal, whereas Joshua Harris has separated from his wife and no longer believes in God. One day a teenager, Greta Thurnberg, is a lone climate change protestor; a few months later she has inspired climate marches that draw millions, stoked the ire of the IMPOTUS and is named TIME person of the year. A loud fat Black woman Lizzo is at the top of the music charts. All the major beauty pageants have been won by Black women. One day I'm embarrassed to say that we have a basketball team, the next day I'm proudly declaring #wethenorth as the Raptors go on to win the NBA championships. #bandwagonist. Closer to home, I was shocked when I was invited this year to the wedding of one of my retired friends who had long been divorced. None of us thought that any of the above could happen — until it did. And yes perhaps these things didn't just "happen." There was work involved. There was also some serendipity. I'm challenging us all to always make space for the possibility of serendipity. I can tell you that I'm in a COMPLETELY different place in all spheres of my life compared to where I was twelve months ago. The stuff that has happened wouldn't have made sense a year ago. I couldn't predict this year if I tried. I feel like I'm in the twilight zone. You can be hopeful in the knowledge that things can change in an instant. Life is teeming with possibilities. Be open to the possibility that this year might be the year when you have your "one day".