Short post for today since it’s bedtime (and I actually mean short this time). It’s also an important post in light of the sexual harassment/assault revolution that we have been caught up in as of late (I would dare say that the partners of these predators are also victims to a certain extent).
I obviously don’t have any experience with this topic and I may just be talking out of the side of my mouth here, but I am of the opinion that if a man wants to cheat on you, he will. He will find a way.
Exhibit A, B, and C: Beyoncé Knowles Carter.
I kind of talked about this in my post about Beyoncé, Israel and other indiscretions but it bears repeating. Jay Z recently came out and confirmed — explicitly (for all of you “Lemonade” and “4:44” deniers out there) — that he had cheated on Beyoncé.
Beyoncé is the dream woman of many a heterosexual man (or even woman) out here. She is #flawless. She is beautiful. She is talented. She is rich. She seems to have a nice personality. And according to her “Lemonade album”, she was good in bed. But Shawn still strayed.
Like Adrienne says below (and, side note: if you can get your hands on the whole episode to watch the entire “Girl Chat” do it, because Adrienne and Tamera share so much more than what is shared below and it was juicy), it don’t matter how pretty, talented or whatever you are (I could talk more about how ironic it is that Adrienne is speaking on this topic, but I won’t just in case Jeannie Mai reads my blog, though perhaps one could say that Adrienne has first-hand insight into this phenomenon). “Show me a woman who is beautiful, talented… whatever, and I’ll show you a man who don’t want her.”
Sad, but true.
If a man wants to cheat on you, he will. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Cheating is a deliberate act. Your dick does not just automatically slip out of your pants. You don’t just haphazardly start talking about the problems in your marriage with an interested and willing female listener. It takes an active choice. There is no such thing as, “She pushed me to/made me cheat on her,” which is probably one of the most weak-assed excuses in the history of forever. While cheating may be indicative of the state of a relationship, at least the other partner cheated on can rest assured knowing that it wasn’t because of her. It’s not even about her. It’s about him.
(Yes, of course I know women cheat too, but that’s a story for another time. Good night.)