A Theology of Self-Pleasure: Exploring Masturbation, Desire and Faithful Embodiment

Seven years ago, in 2018, I wrote one of my most popular blog posts — a blog about whether or not “masturbation is a sin.” That piece was honest, imperfect, and deeply personal. I wrote it because I genuinely wanted to know if masturbating, as a Christian, was “wrong,” and I was tired of reading … Continue reading A Theology of Self-Pleasure: Exploring Masturbation, Desire and Faithful Embodiment

Don’t Celebrate “Guiltsgiving” (or Any Other Shame-Laden Holidays While We’re At It)

Happy Thanksgiving to my American followers! Our (Canadian) Thanksgiving was way back in October, but no matter when you celebrate Thanksgiving, there’s always something for which to be thankful. (I, for one, am thankful that I am not an American — especially not right now during this bleak period in American history.  But I digress.) … Continue reading Don’t Celebrate “Guiltsgiving” (or Any Other Shame-Laden Holidays While We’re At It)

On Dating, Fat Shame, Negging, Tinder and Jerks

“So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God…I really, really am), I can’t say the same about your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body would let me down. I don’t want that to happen baby. I don’t want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I’m not hard.” Continue reading On Dating, Fat Shame, Negging, Tinder and Jerks